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Just Show Up's avatar

Oh my heart! So much here speaks to me and calls for response, which will have to come later. Meanwhile, one brief tale: an 80-something-year-old man once told me, never greet someone with the question, "How are you?" because people rarely answer honestly and, he said, many people who ask it don't actually want to know how you really are. Instead, he instructed, say, "It's so good to see you!" or something similar. Only ask someone how they are, he said, if you really want an honest reply. I've never forgotten that.

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Diane Fine's avatar

Good afternoon and thank you, Adam and others, for these words and stories. They elicited many images and thoughts for me---one being the need/role of the "town crier" in days past.

Some years back, I had invited a fellow artist friend of mine to come here to the State University of New York- Plattsburgh to work with my students and give a public lecture about her work. She is among the most inspired, humble and talented artist that I know. She and her husband built a house in the woods of Michigan where they raised much of their food and two amazing children, tended to extended family and neighbors and lived simply enough that they managed to have their art-making sustain them (food, children's education, healthcare) in a way that is rarely possible. They are not art market "stars" but they made choices that limited their material needs, etc. Right before my friend was about to begin her talk, an audience member, who I knew was a wealthy art collector, leaned forward from the chair behind me and, knowing I was hosting the artist, asked, "Is she successful?!" I knew what he meant (does she sell alot of her work for high prices) but I remember saying something like, "You'll have to tell me what you mean by that" before the lights dimmed and the gift of her sharing began. The conversation did not pick up when the talk was over. I can only hope he got an answer to his question....

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